Lifted Book Study | Week 5, Chapter 13

Love keeps no record of wrongs. 

You may know that truth from 1 Corinthians 13 well, having heard it at countless weddings. You may have the passage hanging on the wall as a piece of art in your home. You may even be able to recite the words by heart. 

But there’s a difference between knowing something and actually living it out . . . especially when it comes to the way we think about ourselves.  If love keeps no record of wrongs, why are we so good at remembering our failings  and past mistakes? Or as Lindsey asks in the final chapter of Lifted,

“Why am I quick  to believe  what  the  Bible  says  about  my  sin  but slow to believe what it says about my forgiveness?”

In your quiet time today ask yourself . . . 

  • What mistakes do I remind myself of (berate myself for)?
  • What do I need to do to forgive myself?
  • Do I need to apologize to anyone?
  • Am I willing to feel the transformation that comes with forgiveness?

If you are a Believer, you might also ask yourself if Jesus is able to forgive any mistake—no matter how big or small? 

(Spoiler alert: He is.)

Freeing yourself from the fog of fear, obligation, and guilt often begins with forgiveness.

It’s time to clear the slate. 

Lifted Book Study | Week 3, Chapter 7

How Praying for Your Enemies Helps You

Here’s your fair warning: Grab a Kleenex for this chapter. (If you’re anything like me you may need to just go ahead and grab the box.)

We are designed for relationship. As humans, we crave connection. And when our most important relationships are damaged by hurt, betrayal, misunderstanding, or neglect, mending them can be almost painful as the event(s) that caused the damage. But if we are able to get past that pain, something beautiful awaits on the other side.

And that’s where prayer comes in. Prayer helps us get through the hurt. When we pray with hearts that are open to God’s leading, we are changed in the process; our fears are stilled, and our hearts are softened and strengthened.

Praying for those who’ve hurt us—be it a parent, a spouse, child, friend, or stranger—isn’t a natural response to pain. But as Lindsey discusses in this chapter, it can lead to forgiveness of others and of oneself.

As she shares the experience of reaching out to mend the hurt in her relationship with her father, she says, “By taking that one step toward forgiveness, I began to see more clearly how fears had crept into my life and tainted everything.”

Deep pain affects every area of our lives. We can try to compartmentalize our pain—but the fact is that pain will always bleed into other relationships. Moving toward forgiveness, even if we’re only able to take one baby step at a time, puts us on a healthier path.

Staying on that path is the trick. Lindsey writes:

“Leaning into and living in forgiveness rather than fear, however, wasn’t a one-time decision; it’s a daily action. You can decide to forgive, just like you can decide to lose weight, but until you put a meal plan and a workout regimen into action, it’s just a decision. To lose weight, you have to do the work of exercising and eating right—and it takes time to see the results. The same is true of forgiveness.”

Take some time today to journal and pray about someone in your life whom you need to forgive. That person may even be you. Ask God to help you experience the forgiveness and peace that only He can provide.