Lifted Book Study | Week 2, Chapter 5

Are you afraid people will think you’re pushy?

As we wrap up Week 2, we turn to Chapter 5: “What Successful Women Do Differently.” I love that Lindsey doesn’t go into a Pinterest post of the “Top 10 Things You Can Do to Change Your Life Right Now.” We’ve all seen those lists, and honestly, we already know those top ten things (even if we don’t always drink 8 glasses of water and eat 5 servings of veggies daily.) The reality is there is no insta-fix for success. But there are traits and habits that you can build over time that enhance your chances for achieving your unique version of success.

Getting up every time you stumble and partnering with the right people are two important attributes that Lindsey highlights in this chapter. (I’d love for you to share in the comments who your biggest supporter is!)

For this final post of the week, however, I wanted to focus on the third trait of successful women that Lindsey mentions: asking for what you want—what you really want, not just what would lead to an easy yes.

I was in direct sales myself for many years, and many of the sweet, gentle souls on my team were terrified to ask people to hold parties/gatherings for them. They were hesitant to ask for the sale because they didn’t want to seem pushy. So instead, they hoped that someone would see their phone number on their SUV’s back window, ring them up, and buy everything in the catalog.

You can guess how successful that tactic was (or wasn’t). In business, the “hope strategy” rarely (as in never) pays off.

What does pay off is confidently presenting the information and product, assuming that people will love it because you obviously do (You do, right?), and then asking what they’d like to take home. And if the answer is nothing, fine! You’re not asking out of desperation; you’re just sharing something you love. In business, asking for the sale isn’t being pushy; it’s being professional.

One thing I always told my team members was, “If you are concerned of seeming pushy, chances are you will never be perceived as such. People who really are pushy aren’t self-aware enough to know that they could ever be! That’s not you, so go ahead and ask for the sale!” Because as Lindsey points out, the worst thing that could happen would be that someone says no and nothing changes.

The same is true for our personal lives. If you want something, it’s good and right to ask for it! If the answer is no and nothing changes, well, you’re in the same spot you were before you asked—only you’ve practiced a little bravery and are stronger for it.

If you ask for what you really want and you get it, just imagine what could change for you!

What is it that you really want? Are you willing to ask for it?

P.S. The Spice Girl’s song is now firmly stuck in my head. “Tell me what you want, what you really, really want!” ?