Lifted Book Study | Week 4, Chapter 11

Is not playing “pretend” a sin?

“Each of us only has a limited supply of energy, and spending energy on guilt wears you down. It drives you to walk around all day feeling like you are not enough . . . . It pulls you in directions you never meant to go and leaves you running on fumes . . . .”

Can you relate to that feeling of running on fumes?

Do you feel guilty about not being enough or not being great at all the things like everyone else seems to be?

Does that guilt make you say yes to things you’d really rather say no to? Like playing pretend? Or making cupcakes for the entire third grade? Or watching SpongeBob for the ninth time—in a single day?

Do you look at others’ social media or Sunday-morning lives and feel guilty because you really don’t have it all together?

Guess what; they’re probably feeling the same way about themselves.

So instead of letting mom guilt wash over you—again—do a reality check to see if what you’re feeling is condemnation or conviction. Condemnation comes from the enemy, and its purpose is to make you feel like “not enough” so you’ll stay distracted. Conviction comes from Jesus; its purpose is to help you grow in character.

Lindsey writes:

“In order to evaluate whether my mommy guilt was condemnation or conviction, I asked myself if I was sinning by not wanting to play ‘make-believe’ with my kids. I wasn’t feeling lust, anger, greed, or jealousy. I wasn’t gossiping, slandering, lying, or swearing (even though I want to while I play dolls) . . . . Satan was condemning me, making me feel guilt and a sense of unworthiness, and frankly, I was done letting his lies run my confidence dry.”

Maybe playing pretend isn’t your thing. That’s okay.

Maybe you can’t make it to every game. That’s okay too.

Maybe you don’t have time (or frankly, the skill) to make four dozen treats for the school fundraiser. Guess what? That’s okay too.

Your job is to use the unique gifts, skills, and talents that God has given you. Use them well. Share them liberally. In doing so, you’ll create moments that fill you with energy. That’s how you can best serve everyone—including yourself.

What should-dos cause you to feel mom guilt?