Lifted Book Study | Week 1, Chapter 2

How are you?

No really. How are you?

Chances are your immediate response when you’re asked that question is “Fine.” Or maybe “Good.”  Or if you’re like me, especially a few years ago, the answer is “Busy.

There was a period a few years back when every time I was asked that question, my answer was “Busy.” Sometimes I varied things and said, “Crazy busy.”

But busy is a state of doing, not a state of being. 

In reality, busy can be a shield—a protective response that keeps people from getting any closer. In the same way, fine is often the response we use when we don’t want to get into the nitty gritty of life with others.

Fine and busy are lies we tell ourselves and anyone who asks because they keep the truth and deeper emotions at a distance.

But if we are going to be the women God created us to be, we have to be honest with ourselves, with God, and with others. You don’t need to tell everyone every detail of your life, but we all need to have a few people in our lives with whom we can be real and to whom we share our unvarnished truth.

Maybe the truth is you are feeling . . .

  • Sad
  • Stressed
  • Anxious
  • Happy
  • Nervous
  • Exhausted
  • Angry
  • Scared
  • Overwhelmed
  • Broken
  • Lonely
  • Grateful

Or maybe you’re feeling a mixture of many (or even all) of those things at once. That’s okay.

Lies like fine and busy allow us to keep up appearances while preventing us from developing deeper connections. They also keep us feeling isolated because no one understand how we may really be feeling (not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know—because you told them you were fine or too busy to really talk).

In Chapter 2, Lindsey writes, “If you persist in living a lie (like I did with that stolen headband), you will never discover the true gifts God intended for you.”

It’s time to let go of the lies. Talking with God about how you feel—how you really are—is a good place to start. And here’s the deal: God already knows what’s on your heart and mind; He doesn’t need you to tell Him how you feel—but He wants you to tell Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). And He has plans for you and wants you to know Him (Jeremiah 21:11–13).

Today’s Reflection

Why do you think it’s hard to be honest about how we really feel?

2 Replies to “Lifted Book Study | Week 1, Chapter 2”

  1. Afraid of people saying your problem isn’t really a problem considering what another person is going thru, fear of being judged, or people acting uninterested.

    1. I can totally understand that you would feel this way Jane. Thank you for sharing your thoughts so authentically. I honestly think that we all struggle with fearing that we aren’t important enough to be really seen…which is what I hear when you say people will act uninterested! I think it’s so important to remember that God has created us for connection so that means that he has also created the right people to connect with us if we are brave enough to put ourselves out there. Thanks for sharing!

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